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When you keep avoiding something — a conversation, a task, a feeling — and the avoidance is costing you more than facing it would.
Trickster says avoidance is safety. It says if you do not look at the storm, it is not there. But the storm follows you anyway. Running costs more energy than walking.
You do not have to fix the storm. You have to stop running from it. Turning toward it is not the same as solving it. It is just standing in honest weather.
- Name one thing you have been avoiding.
- Do not fix it yet. Just look at it.
- Say: "This is the storm I have been running from."
- Take one breath.
- Ask: "What is one small step toward it — not to solve it, just to stop running?"
- Take that step. Just that one.
Name the storm you are avoiding. You do not have to walk all the way in. Just stop running. Turn toward it. One step.
Some storms are too big to walk into alone. If the thing you are avoiding involves harm, fear, or danger, do not force it. Get support. Ask someone to walk in with you.
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